July 22, 2010
Miss Ella D -via The Island News
Women require more than men- a larger monthly clothing allowance, one last glance in the mirror before going out, every color pair of shoes in her closet, and most importantly, friends. (favorite.line.ever!)
I am not just talking about the people you say ‘hi’ to while walking down Bay Street, but the inner circle…the ones you call for no reason or call because you have news… the ones you want to go shopping or drink coffee with, the ones you who know you (the REAL you), and love you anyway.
I like to refer to it as a sisterhood. These friendships we hold near and dear to our hearts- they require care and feeding and exercise. We work at being thoughtful of one another and avoid the demands that strain these bonds.
Some ladies have a small circle of besties while others are large- it matters not the number.
What is important is the mutual like, respect, and thought. Your friends rescue you- from a lonely Christmas day, a bad date, or from your kids!! She knows you will do the same for her one day. And you don’t keep score- it is NEVER tit for tat. It all evens out in the wash eventually- you see, that is what friends are for.
My inner circle is not so large, and I love it that way. My oldest friend (she is not old mind you)- I could just eat her up: I love her like a sister. She has been with me through thick and thin. She knows me, my family, my past, and what I hope my future to be. She understands who I am and why, she l listens to me with real empathy, she can laugh with me or at me. In turn, I chuckle at her jokes, listen to her tell stories about her kids, remember her special days, and hold her secrets and dreams close to my heart. Our bond is understood and mutual. It has taken years to develop and nurture our special relationship.
Girlfriends like her and the rest of my inner circle are what I consider to make me the person I am. It is these intimate connections with fellow women that make my mundane days just more fun! I honestly don’t know what I would do without my girlfriends to chat with on the phone while I do my ironing or hang out with on those long summer days at the pool. So, here’s to all the ladies and the bonds of friendships…cheers to the sisterhood! Now, go give your bestie a call and tell her so!